Ginny Wilson-Peters' Blog
“When we are seen by the heart we are seen for who we are. We are valued in our uniqueness by those who are able to see us in this way and we become able to know and value ourselves” Rachel Naomi Remen, Kitchen Table Wisdom
A campfire in the center. A camp counselor playing a guitar. Counselors with names like Birch and Patches and Froggie. And a circle of girls belting out their favorite songs. Sitting in circle at Girl Scout camp is among my favorite childhood memories (yes, even better than the Girl Scout cookies). Many times we would march to the campfire and begin with a ritual to remind us of the sacred space we were entering.
My early memories of campfires were perhaps the seeds of my passion for sitting in circle with other women. Circles are certainly not unique to Girl Scout camp; women and men have been sitting in circle for centuries prior to my experience.
I will admit though that after my Girl Scout years, I went for many years without experiencing the positive support and energy of a circle of women. I grew up as the only girl in a family with three older brothers. In my twenties and early thirties I didn’t appreciate the value of connecting closely with other women. About ten years ago a friend gave me a book called “Circle of Stones: A Woman’s Journey to Herself” by Judith Duerk. It is a book about the power of women coming together in a circle. “How might your life have been different if there had been a place for you, a place for you to go to be with your mother, with your sisters and your aunts, with your grandmothers, and the great- and great-great-grandmothers, a place of women to go, to be, to return to, as woman? How might your life be different?”
Reading Circle of Stones re-ignited my earlier passion for circles. And I took action. Even before I left my previous job to start this company, I began inviting women to sit together monthly. Intuitively I knew that we were to sit in circles. Our first circles met in my living room and we created our own rules for coming together. Many of those early rules are in place today—and they are consistent with the guidelines put forth by others for creating circle as a sacred space. When we moved into my current office space, we continued to pull the chairs together and sit in circle. Building code doesn’t allow for a campfire at the center but we do have a place in the center with something representing each of the four elements: earth, fire, water and air.
Over the years I have had the privilege of creating leadership circles for hundreds of men and women. Why do people continue their commitment to these circles? Because the circle is a place where we can listen and learn and grow. Sarah, a woman in one of our leadership groups said the monthly meetings were “a place to breathe”. Another woman last week said the women’s leadership group is the one day a month that she most looks forward to coming to work.
If you’re not part of a circle right now, I encourage you to find one or create your own. Some websites and books to provide guidance are:
http://www.turningtooneanother.net/
The Millionth Circle by Jean Shinoda Bolin
Sacred Circles: A Guide To Creating Your Own Women’s Spirituality Group by Robin Deen Carnes and Sally Craig
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“A leader is anyone who is willing to help.” (The Berkana Institute. www.berkana.org )
One of my favorite discussions in all of our leadership courses centers around what is leadership and what is management. In his book, “Tribes” Seth Godin describes it this way:
“Leadership is Not Management. Management is about manipulating resources to get a known job done. Burger King hires managers. They know exactly what they need to deliver and they are given resources to do it at a low cost. Managers manage a process they’ve seen before, and they react to the outside world, striving to make that process as fast and as cheap as possible.
Leadership, on the other hand, is about creating change that you believe in.
Leaders have followers. Managers have employees.
Managers make widgets. Leaders make change.”
Consider also the following comments from two different MBA students following our discussion of this topic. Both came from their reflective writing assignments
“A key idea that resonated with me from the class discussion is that leadership is a choice and not merely a power inherited with a title. Far too often we find ourselves wrapped up in the notion that leadership is a position we get to in the company. That is a vain and fallacious view of leadership. Unfortunately, I have developed too many of my expectations with the premise, “If I do a good job now, one day, they will make me a leader.” I’ve always held that leadership is a management position that I will earn one day. However, I have realized that my opportunity for leadership is up to me. I don’t need to wait for my company to tell me I’m a leader. I can simply start being a leader today. Interestingly enough, I believe that stepping up and showing my leadership today, and exercising it, will do more for my bigger career ambitions than the path I am currently on. Not only that, but I can get a lot more done now by being a leader to my co-workers (and even my managers) by leading.” (Spring 2009 MBA student)
“I’ve recently begun to make an effort to differentiate between the leaders and managers at my workplace. The layers of management are quick to refer to their group as “leadership”, when in fact they only react to manage current circumstances. While management skills are critical, the class discussion made it clear that an organization cannot thrive with purely management or leadership skills – it must rely on a balance of both. This gives me some clarity as to why I’ve been so frustrated with those in positions of authority, as they consistently react to financial pressures, and ignore the forward-thinking pleas of subordinate leaders. Unfortunately, it is extremely difficult to manage or “lead” up the chain of command.” (Spring 2009 MBA student)
And so you get it, right?
- A leader is anyone who is willing to help.
- Leadership is a choice, not a position.
- Leadership is a set of teachable, learnable and measurable results. (Jim Kouzes and Barry Posner)
- Management is about STABILITY. It’s about planning, directing and controlling resources in order to deliver consistent results (product or service.
- Leadership is about CHANGE. It’s about creating a vision for the future; creating a culture where people are motivated and inspired to grow.
- The power for being an effective manager comes from position—from being the boss. The power for being an effective leader comes from your personal power; being a coach, facilitator and servant leader.
- Managers do things RIGHT; Leaders do the right thing. (Peter Drucker)
Which leads us to two questions.
- Can you be a good manager without being a good leader?
- Can you be a good leader without being a good manager?
What are your thoughts? Leave me a comment and let me know.



